My 12 year old daughter has asked me when she can start dating.
Let's just say that I was sort of a goody two shoes and didn't want to upset my parents. I am now a mother of a 12 year old daughter and a 10 year old son.
See too the Shinui Nuschaot section in the above link, and look at this manuscript-based edition for instance mechon-mamre.org/b/h/h49I would like to explain the rashi and tosfos you mention on kiddushin 29b. Does one have to support a wife if one is not living with her.
It is not so much a concern as it is that this idea of kids dating as has been perpetuated via media.
Practically every show out there aimed at kids shows characters either dating, being in romantic relationships or the like.
You and your husband need to address the following: 1. Teens learn to negotiate their feelings and relationships while they are still young and under your roof. See my website for more articles like this: have no business dating let alone being in any sort of "serious" relationship when in school.
As we all know, relationships and healthy dating take a lot of practice and trial and error. Televised media helped to promote this idea that kids are supposed to have boyfriend/girlfriends and are supposed to be dating. Naturally as kids view movies, shows, read books and all they will think that this is the "norm" and it is up to the parents to tell them that when in school, they have no business dating. Naturally, teenagers get more romantic feelings for people. Middle school and high school are the times where teens can experiment with relationships.