Canberra"Canberra seems to be an oasis of highly-educated, cultured, enlightened, reasonably well paid men in high level positions in the public service," says James."Guys really struggle here because of a relative shortage of women.
I'd bet any half decent woman living here would have a very easy time of it with dating," he says.
Having returned once again to the dating trenches, I've been surprised by just how many attractive women there are in Sydney and how few of them want to have sex with me.
This is largely my fault, seeing as I only go out once a fortnight to my local RSL, then proceed to drink the bar dry of Jameson; so I'm not always the most attractive prospect.
He also says that, because of the huge focus many Sydneysiders have on their careers, many professional men aren't particularly masculine and many professional women aren't particularly feminine."Most exercise regimes seem to focus on the gym/running for both sexes rather than, say, masculine sports for men and/or ballet and salsa for women," says James."I regularly see groups of eight immaculately-presented women sitting face-to-face at a corner table, seemingly expecting some super-confident, handsome guy to come up and make a sincere attempt at getting to know them in front of her seven friends," says James. Brisbane James says it's roughly a 50-50 gender split of attractive people in Brisvegas."Obviously it's got great weather a lot of the year.
Guys who learn a bit about style and go beyond the printed T-shirt once in a while might do really well," says James."There's plenty of party action on the Gold Coast; skinny, buxom platinum blondes and partying tourists galore and they're just waiting for strong confident and athletic locals to come along and join them."Again for any brighter guys who are struggling in Brisbane you may want to give Sydney a try; a little bit of masculinity can go a fair way in the better suburbs, particularly if you up it in the style stakes," he says.
Who you actually find: A passable stranger who hasn't decided yet, but wants to text a lot anyways. Who you actually find: Bored travelers who just used their last minute of free airport wi-fi to get this app. Who you actually find: A flighty 23-year-old who likes talking about his abdominals.
It is: An elite app for celebrities, models, artists, and other generally cultured people. It is: An app that literally tracks you, showing you when and how often you cross paths with other users. Who you want to find: The girl with the dimples you've seen at the corner store twice.
In this respect, he argues Sydney has become very much like New York and London: There are lots of accomplished, lonely people here."Many people's lives seem largely work and career-focused and there's very little time for anything else; dating, travel, arts, culture, sport, seeking some enlightenment, happiness," says James.
In many respects, the cliche is true; Melbourne is a more enlightened city than the other Aussie capitals."Property prices and the cost of living are not horrendous (like Sydney), so the city seems a little bit less status-oriented, than Sydney or Perth.
Another interesting thing about Melbourne is that the people seem to travel a lot more than the other capital cities, which makes them more worldly," says James.
Recently, I ran into a charming gentleman by the name of James Maclane, a dating coach who teaches men the essential art of attracting women and was surprised when he rated Sydney one of the best places in the country to go out on the pull. So let's take them one at a time and hear what James has to say.1.
James and his team at Social Coach have worked all over Australia helping men with their social and romantic skills and also sniffed around nightclubs and bars in all our major cities. Adelaide"Seriously, hot girls will come and pick you up if you can dress OK and hold their eye contact," says James.