You’re like: You ask her about it and she’s like, “Oh, yeah, we have this in common, blah blah blah,” and you try to be cool about it but inside you’re like… You start to freak out, wondering what is going on. She promises you she would never betray you like that and swears nothing shady is happening. Now you’re sad and lonely and totally not over him at all. You finally come to the conclusion that you’ll never move on or trust anyone again. You talk to your best friend about it all the time. You’re so upset you don’t even want to leave your bedroom. (But don’t worry, you will.) Has one of your friends ever dated your ex? Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up. Even though I no longer had feelings for my ex, that didn't mean I would want him shacking up with my best friend! Luckily, they didn't hook up, but I felt like my ex would have if given the opportunity. As far as I'm concerned, there's only one rule when it comes to friends dating exes and that is: YOU CAN' T DO IT. If that doesn't get your dick limp, I don't know what will. For a moment, things got so bad that my ex and I stopped talking for a bit, but we're fine now, thankfully.
I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.At first she’s so supportive and nice and says all the right encouraging things. She swears once again that nothing is happening between them, but you don’t believe her. A few days later, you see her write on his Facebook wall and you’re so mad you don’t know what to do. Then, out of nowhere, she starts to get weird about it whenever you bring up his name. A few weeks later, you find out (somehow) that she’s been really friendly with your ex. Often it’s hard to tell the two apart, especially if you’ve not been in a relationship or hooked up with anyone in a while.If you can distinguish between the two and it’s nothing more than an urge for a wild boot-knocking, then stop right there because it’s definitely not worth it.