The last time I saw him, I asked him if we could define our relationship. I decided that everything was probably okay until yesterday when my brother went to a coffee shop and saw him with another girl.
In response, he started talking, but somehow didn’t really say anything, and I got the feeling he was probably seeing someone else. Everything was still so new between us, so I let the subject drop. I’m afraid to bring this up with him because the conversation didn’t go well the last time; he’s obviously not ready to be exclusive with me. My friend, you are an unwitting victim of the new culture that I call “the Tinder Revolution.” Although it’s always been possible to see more than one person at a time, technology – and Tinder, where one swipes right or left to meet or reject another – is just one app of many that has made it much easier for us to encounter, get-to-know, and “communicate” with multiple people simultaneously.
Deb Castaldo, a relationship therapist, college professor, and author of the new book, , which will premiere on WE TV in early 2015. he invites you to meet his family, you plan to spend the holidays together, you speak about the future in indefinite terms), but the only way to know for sure is to ask.
Lady LUX: Should a woman assume she is dating a man exclusively? LL: If you can’t make this assumption, how should you handle this potentially touchy subject?
Ever been at a party or a function where someone is talking to you, but at the same time scanning the room looking for someone else to talk to? I can also date multiple people and still make the right choice. Dating multiple people has significantly disabled bachelors and bachelorettes from focusing on the people sitting right in front of them.
Studies show that too many options actually make it harder to choose.
Participants included Astroglide's resident sexologist, Jess O' Reilly, a relationship counselor and a best-selling author with a Ph D in sex education; Dr. O’Reilly: There may be signs that your new love interest sees your relationship as exclusive (e.g.Every time I date a nice guy, especially if I like him, I feel so insecure and wonder, what if he’s dating someone else at the same time?Just last month, I met a cute guy and we went out and had so much fun together. Now it’s been a month and we’ve gone out four times.If you’re enjoying spending time together, you can simply let him know that you’re dating him exclusively and ask him if he feels the same way. O’Reilly: As soon as you feel as though you’d like to be exclusive, speak up.If you’re afraid that you’ll scare him off, you’ll save yourself the trouble of investing additional time and energy into someone who doesn’t share similar relationship goals. Castaldo: A healthy strategy is to have a conversation after about a month of dating.