This is a mistake – and one that makes online dating considerably more inefficient and tedious. Some of the oldest and most boring cliches of online dating are the people who just say that they’re some attractive quality… Saying that you’re funny or spontaneous or romantic is the dating site equivalent of “I listen to a little bit of everything except country and rap.” It’s so generic as to mean nothing.
To start with, you have to rethink the way that you present yourself.
This means sending out more cold e-mails, dealing with more rejections and more dates that go nowhere. It’s part of the price of entry, and it’s better that adjust your expectations accordingly instead of dealing with the slow burn of “WHY WON’T THE MAGICAL BOX PROVIDE ME WITH SEX?
” Remember what I said earlier about how we mentally filter people into “attractive” and “not attractive” when we meet them in person?
This means that you have to consider your market, what you’re looking for and what makes you, specifically, attractive to others.
OKCupid, for example, is structured more heavily towards casual dating and hooking up.