I felt that was unfair because we hardly saw each other and she didn't make an effort to visit me; I always traveled to her city.
She was also pretty incredulous about me being a virgin.
There were some people who were surprised that I'd never had a girlfriend though. We would have conversations about our other friends having sex and how they had made decisions to stop having sex, but kept doing it anyway. Man A: I don't feel like it's something I need to lead with or tell people from the get-go, but I know it will come up eventually and will probably surprise the girl because she's not expecting it.
He moved to NYC about a year ago and has had some success on Tinder and Bumble, so I don't know if he still is or not. I don't tend to ask them though because it might be a sore point for them. The friend who teases me about it now was actually my girlfriend throughout high school and my first three semesters of college.
I get that it might be annoying to teach someone the basics of all that, but I'm a quick learner and it's not like I haven't read things about the topic.
Putting it in practice might be tricky, but I figure the right person will think I'm worth that.
One time we were making out, and she started to try and take off my pants, but I stopped her.
We sat there in silence for about 10 minutes and then she said, "I don't think I'm the girl for you." I still had pretty intense feelings for her at the time, so I didn't take it well.Man C: Most of them know and none of my really close friends were surprised.We all kind of ran in a socially awkward and nerdy circle in high school. He's a roommate I had for two years after college and was one of my fraternity brothers.Fortunately, it never really comes up, maybe because other Indonesians want to keep the virginity myth, and Westerners assume by default that Asian guys are sexless.Man C: Most people didn't really seem to mind except for the last person I dated who had issues with it.