She has difficulty making introductions for women over 43, though she will accept men up to their late 50s.
Talking to women, the conversations were soon circling around pain, fear of loneliness, panic as the child-bearing years slip by, outrage at being treated as a down-valued commodity on the marriage market, and a sense of betrayal at a sexual revolution which seemed to guarantee orgasms but not the partners with which to have them.
Unlike Andrew, Paula was initially positive about beginning single life again: 'I read all these books and articles which tell you not to stay in a bad relationship, that life isn't a dress rehearsal.
Although I envisaged probably spending the rest of my life on my own, I felt that any relationship that I might have, had to be better than the one I had before. 'You go out with a guy and play all these bloody games - will he phone, won't he phone?
'The pool of women that they are looking at is much greater.
It is more socially acceptable to go out with younger women and men have more social freedom to go out on their own to meet people.