But what if he’s giving you reason to think he shares your interest?
“That’s a really complex situation, because you have two people that are attracted to each other, but you’re both betraying your best friend,” Dr. You may be tempted to tell him that you’re into him and see where things go.
If you care deeply about her (which you probably do, hence the best friendship), then it’s in your best interests to move on.
“I would suggest not acting on your feelings,” says Kim Olver, a licensed clinical professional counselor and author of .
Trust this person to be who they’re showing him or herself to be.
If he’s flirting with you while he’s in a relationship, he’ll probably do the same to you, because that’s who he’s showing himself to be.” The next choice, however, isn’t so black and white.
If he’s just flirting, you may be better off avoiding his company and not saying anything to your best friend. ’ Then you respond, ‘I do like John, but I think you guys should spend time together on your own.’” What if things have gone further — like you’ve openly discussed your mutual attraction or kissed? “Tell her, ‘It will never happen again, and I want you to know because I care about you and I treasure our friendship.’” There’s a good chance your best friend will be pretty pissed.
Try telling your best friend you want to give them more “couple time” and you’d rather hang out with her solo.
If it seems that the feelings are going one way — from you to him — the next steps are relatively simple: The experts say you’re going to have to perform a one-sided breakup.
No one but you will know you’re ending your “relationship” with this guy, for obvious reasons.
So being attracted to your best friend’s BF doesn’t make you evil — or even a bad friend.
But there’s definitely a right way and a wrong way to handle the situation. First, how important is your relationship with your best friend?